会爱别人,这当然是一种难得的能力,但是能够被别人爱,尤其是能够在被爱以后做出适当的反应,能够投桃报事,这无疑更是一种难能可贵的心理能力。可惜,在性爱中缺乏这种被爱的能力的夫妻,比我们想象的还多一些。人们已经习惯于谴责「痴心女子负心汉」,因为不会被爱的丈夫确实比妻子多得多。可是, Of course, it is a rare ability, but it can be loved by others, especially after being loved so that it can respond appropriately and can be rewarded with things. This is undoubtedly an even more valuable psychological ability. Unfortunately, couples who lack the ability to be loved in sex are more than we think. People are accustomed to condemning “infatuated women,” as the unloved husband does indeed have far more than his wife. but,