他们处在青春期这一人生的特殊阶段,他们生活在日新月异的信息时代,他们的生活比父辈们优越,他们承载着家人的期望,他们对新事物有很强烈的好奇心,他们的成长与互联网息息相关,他们被称为“90后”。面对“90后”一代,父母们往往苦恼于自己呕心沥血却依然和孩子有隔膜,甚至难免发生冲突。一位出生于60年代、现为“90后”男孩的父亲,不无感慨的说:“我的孩子就像一个矛盾体。他对外面的人很热情,但对家里人很冷漠;他很有好奇心,爱学习,但只喜欢在网络上学习,不喜欢听老师讲课;他心里有烦恼愿意在网上和陌生人说,却不肯告诉他的爸爸”。“90后”生活在大众传媒飞速发展的时代。信息传播便捷迅速,使孩子与成人的界限消失,这些不仅改变着孩子们的生活方式,也改变了他们与父母的关系。尤其在媒介使用方面,他们甚至已经成为父母之师。因此,向孩子学习并加强引导是亲子沟通的有效途径。结合“90后”上述特征,如果采取有效的措施,会更利于父母与子女建立和谐的亲子关系。 They are at a special stage of their adolescence, living in a rapidly changing information age. Their lives are superior to their fathers. They carry the expectations of their families. They are very curious about new things, their growth and the Internet Relevant, they are called “90 after ”. In the face of “90s” generation, parents are often distressed by their painstaking efforts but still have a diaphragm with their children, and even conflicts are inevitable. A father who was born in the 1960s and is now a post-90s boy said without any emotion: “My child is like a contradiction. He is passionate about the outside but indifferent to his family He was very curious and loves to learn but only loves to study on the internet and does not like to listen to the teacher. He is annoyed at talking to strangers online but refuses to tell his father. ”90 after “ living in the era of rapid development of the mass media. The speed of information dissemination is rapid and the boundaries between children and adults disappear. These not only change the way children live, but also change their relationship with their parents. Especially in terms of media use, they have even become parents. Therefore, to learn from children and strengthen guidance is an effective way of parent-child communication. Combined with the ”90 after" the above characteristics, if taken effective measures, will be more conducive to the establishment of a harmonious parent-child relationship between parents and children.