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马鞍山市赵先生问: 我儿子11岁了,常不听话还爱顶嘴,有时气得我忍不住要打他骂他,事后我又后悔,真不知该怎么办?赵先生: 孩子既会给家庭带来欢乐,也会给家长带来烦恼。孩子惹你生气时,为了既不伤害他的自尊心,又能产生一定的教育作用,可采取以下步骤。 1.暂且退避:火气上来时采取退避或保持沉默是最佳对策。退避,可使孩子认识到事态的严重性,避开父母与孩子间的正面冲突;还可避免因在气头上说出过头话伤害孩子。 2.表明心情:孩子惹你生气,你发现自己的愤怒在膨胀时,可分三个层次讲出自己的情绪状态:“我对你这样的做法很不高兴!”“我真气极了!”“我马上就要发火了!”这比莫名其妙地爆发有效得多。
Mr. Ma, Anshan City Question: My son is 11 years old and often disobedient and still likes to talk to the mouth. Sometimes I can not help but beat him to scold him. Afterwards, I regret it. I really do not know what to do. Mr. Zhao: Family brings joy, but also give parents trouble. When children make you angry, in order not to hurt his self-esteem, but also produce a certain educational effect, can take the following steps. 1. For the time being: back up or remain silent when the uprising is the best countermeasure. Withdrawal, can make children aware of the seriousness of the situation, to avoid the positive conflict between parents and children; but also to avoid being too angry to hurt children. 2. Show mood: children provoke you angry, you find your anger in the expansion, can be divided into three levels to state their emotional state: “I’m very unhappy about your approach!” “I am infuriating! ”I’m about to get angry!" This is far more effective than somehow erupted.