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生活中，挫折在所难免，什么事都可能随时发生，唯有自信十足的人才能够勇敢而坦然地去面对。怎样才能做到不无端地怀疑自己，走出困惑的泥潭？别让以下这15件负面消极的事情消耗你宝贵的时间，相信你也可以成为一个自信十足的人。
Highly confident people believe in their ability to achieve. If you don’t believe in yourself， why should anyone else put their faith in you？ To walk with swagger and improve your self-confldence， watch out for these fifteen things highly confident people don’t do.
自信十足的人相信自己的实力，一定会取得成功。如果连你自己都不信任自己，别人凭什么对你托付信任呢？想昂首阔步，提升自信吗？一起来看看15件自信十足的人从不会做的事情吧！
1. They Don’t Make Excuses
从不找借口
Highly confident people take ownership of their thoughts and actions. They don’t blame the traffic for being tardy at work; they were late. They don’t excuse their shortcomings with excuses like“I don’t have the time.” or“I’m just not good enough.”; they make the time and they keep on improving until they are good enough.
自信十足的人会对自己的思想和行为负责。他们不会把上班迟到归咎于交通堵塞——迟到就是迟到。他们也不会用“我没有时间”或者“我不够优秀”来原谅自身的不足——他们会挤出时间，并不断提高自己直至足够满意。
2. They Don’t Avoid Doing the Scary Thing
从不回避令人恐惧的事
Highly confident people don’t let fear dominate their lives. They know that the things they are afraid of doing are often the very same things that they need to do in order to evolve into the person they are meant to be.
自信十足的人不会让恐惧支配他们的生活。因为他们清楚，他们不敢去做的事情，往往就是想要成为理想中的人而必须去做的事情。
3. They Don’t Live in a Bubble of Comfort
从不生活在泡沫般的舒适中
Highly confident people avoid the comfort zone， because they know this is a place where dreams die. They actively pursue a feeling of discomfort， because they know stretching themselves is mandatory for their success.
自信十足的人往往避免进入舒适地带，因为他们知道梦想将被扼杀于此。他们积极追求一种不舒适的感觉，因为他们知道要想成功，必须要尽最大的努力。
4. They Don’t Put Things off Until Next Week
从不把任务拖到下周
Highly confident people know that a good plan executed today is better than a great plan executed someday. They don’t wait for the“right time”or the“right circumstances”， because they know these reactions are based on a fear of change. They take action here， now， today because that’s where progress happens.
自信十足的人知道，一個能在今天执行的较好计划，胜过一个将来才能执行的伟大计划。他们不去等“恰当的时机”或者“恰当的境况”，因为他们知道这些反应是对变化的恐惧。他们就在这里、现在、今天采取行动——因为只有做到这一点才会进步。
5. They Don’t Obsess Over the Opinions of Others
从不为他人的看法耿耿于怀
Highly confident people don’t get caught up in negative feedback. While they do care about the well being of others and aim to make a positive impact in the world， they don’t get caught up in negative opinions that they can’t do anything about. They know that their true friends will accept them as they are， and they don’t concem themselves with the rest. 自信十足的人不会陷入负面的反馈。尽管他们的确关注其他人的幸福安康，并致力于对世界产生积极的影响，但他们并不会陷入那些他们认为对此无能为力的负面看法中。他们知道，真正的朋友会接受他们的现状，至于其他人的想法，他们并不在意。
6. They Don’t Judge People
从不妄议他人长短
Highly confident people have no tolerance for unnecessary， self-inflicted drama. They don’t feel the need to insult fnends behind their backs， participate in gossip about fellow co-workers or lash out at folks with different opinions. They are so comfortable in who they are that they feel no need to look down on other people.
自信十足的人不会容忍没必要的、自找的闹剧;在背后侮辱朋友，传播同事的流言蜚语，或对持不同观点的人大肆抨击，因为他们很享受自己的状况，没必要去蔑视他人。
7. They Don’t Let Lack of Resources Stop Them
从不受阻于资源不足
Highly confident people can make use of whatever resources they have， no matter how big or small. They know that all things are possible with creativity and a refusal to quit. They don’t agonize over setbacks， but rather focus on finding a solution.
自信十足的人能够对所拥有的任何资源物尽其用，无论多少。因为他们知道，善用创意，拒绝放弃，可以将一切都变得可能。他们不会因挫折而自怨自艾，而是专注于寻找解决之道。
8. They Don’t Make Comparisons
从不盲目攀比
Highly confident people know that they are not competing with any other person. They compete with no other individual except the person they were yesterday. They know that every person is Iiving a story so unique that drawing compansons would be an absurd and simplistic exercise in futility.
自信十足的人知道他们并不是在和其他任何人竞争——他们的对手从来不是别人，而是昨天的自己。他们也知道，每个人的生活都是独一无二的，所以盲目比较只是荒谬而单纯的徒劳。
9. They Don’t Find Joy in People-pleasing
从不以取悦他人为乐
Highly confident people have no interest in pleasing every person they meet. They are aware that not all people get along， and that’s just how life works. They focus on the quality of their relationships， instead of the quantity of them.
自信十足的人没兴趣去取悦遇到的每一个人。他们很清楚，并非所有人都能相知相交——人生就是这样。所以，他们看中与他人关系的质量，而非数量。
10. They Don’t Need Constant Reassurance
从不依赖持续的安慰
Highly confident people aren’t in need of handholding. They know that life isn’t fair and things won’t always go their way. While they can’t control every event in their life， they focus on their power to react in a positive way that moves them forward.
自信十足的人不需要關怀备至。他们知道人生是不公平的，事情的发展也并非总是如他们所愿。尽管他们无法掌控生活中的每件事，但他们会集中力量积极应对，让自己不断前进。
11. They Don’t Avoid Life’s“Inconvenient Truths”
从不回避人生中“不方便的真相”
Highly confident people confront life’s issues at the root before the disease can spread any farther. They know that problems left unaddressed have a way of multiplying as the days， weeks and months go by. They would rather have an un-comfortable conversation with their partner today than sweep an inconvenient truth under the rug， putting trust at risk. 自信十足的人往往从根源入手，直面人生中的难题，而不是等到后果扩散地更远而再去应对。他们知道，如果放任问题不去处理，它们就会随着每天、每周、每月的积累而扩大。他们宁愿就在今天与合伙人进行一次尴尬的对话，也不愿冒着失去信任的危险，掩盖这个“不方便的真相”。
12. They Don’t Quit Because of Minor Set-backs
从不因微不足道的挫折而放弃
Highly confident people get back up every time they fall down. They know that failure is an unavoidable part of the growth process. They are like a detective， searching for clues that reveal why this approach didn’t work.After modifying their plan， they try again （but better this time）.
每当自信十足的人失败跌倒时，他们都能重整旗鼓，他们知道失败是成长之路上不可避免的一部分。他们就像侦探一样，探寻那些能揭示这个方法为何行不通的线索。重新调整方案之后，他们便再次尝试（但这一次他们会做得更好）。
13. They Don’t Require Anyone’s Permission to Act
从不需要别人的许可
Highly confident people take action without hesitation. Every day， they remind themselves， “If not me， who？”
自信十足的人行动起来绝不拖泥带水。每天他们都会提醒自己：“舍我其谁？”
14. They Don’t Limit Themselves to a Small Toolbox
从不把自己局限在狭小的空间
Highly confident people don’t limit themselves to Plan A. They make use of any and all weapons that are at their disposal， relentlessly testing the effectiveness of every approach， until they identify the strategies that offer the most results for the least cost in time and effort.
自信十足的人绝不会把自己限制在单一的计划上。他们会利用手头上的所有“武器”，不懈地试验每种方法的有效性，直到识别出那种用时最少、劳动成本最低、产出最大的策略。
15. They Don’t Blindly Accept What They Read on the Intemet as“Truth” Without Thinking About It
从不盲目地接受网络上所谓的“真相”
Highly confident people don’t accept articles on the Internet as truth just because some author“said so”. They look at every how to article from the lens of their unique perspective. They maintain a healthy skepticism， making use of any material that is relevant to their lives， and forgetting about the rest. While articles like this are a fun and interesting thought-exercise， highly confident people know that they are the only person with the power to decide what“confidence”means.
自信十足的人，并不會因为一些作者的说辞，就把他们在网上看到的文章认定为“真相”。他们会用各自独特的视角，来审视每一篇指导性的文章。他们会利用与他们生活相关的一切资源，并忽略其他，以此来秉持一种健康的怀疑态度。尽管像这样的文章是一次有趣的思维训练，但是自信十足的人知道，只有他们才有能力确定“信任”的真正意义。
Highly confident people believe in their ability to achieve. If you don’t believe in yourself， why should anyone else put their faith in you？ To walk with swagger and improve your self-confldence， watch out for these fifteen things highly confident people don’t do.
自信十足的人相信自己的实力，一定会取得成功。如果连你自己都不信任自己，别人凭什么对你托付信任呢？想昂首阔步，提升自信吗？一起来看看15件自信十足的人从不会做的事情吧！
1. They Don’t Make Excuses
从不找借口
Highly confident people take ownership of their thoughts and actions. They don’t blame the traffic for being tardy at work; they were late. They don’t excuse their shortcomings with excuses like“I don’t have the time.” or“I’m just not good enough.”; they make the time and they keep on improving until they are good enough.
自信十足的人会对自己的思想和行为负责。他们不会把上班迟到归咎于交通堵塞——迟到就是迟到。他们也不会用“我没有时间”或者“我不够优秀”来原谅自身的不足——他们会挤出时间，并不断提高自己直至足够满意。
2. They Don’t Avoid Doing the Scary Thing
从不回避令人恐惧的事
Highly confident people don’t let fear dominate their lives. They know that the things they are afraid of doing are often the very same things that they need to do in order to evolve into the person they are meant to be.
自信十足的人不会让恐惧支配他们的生活。因为他们清楚，他们不敢去做的事情，往往就是想要成为理想中的人而必须去做的事情。
3. They Don’t Live in a Bubble of Comfort
从不生活在泡沫般的舒适中
Highly confident people avoid the comfort zone， because they know this is a place where dreams die. They actively pursue a feeling of discomfort， because they know stretching themselves is mandatory for their success.
自信十足的人往往避免进入舒适地带，因为他们知道梦想将被扼杀于此。他们积极追求一种不舒适的感觉，因为他们知道要想成功，必须要尽最大的努力。
4. They Don’t Put Things off Until Next Week
从不把任务拖到下周
Highly confident people know that a good plan executed today is better than a great plan executed someday. They don’t wait for the“right time”or the“right circumstances”， because they know these reactions are based on a fear of change. They take action here， now， today because that’s where progress happens.
自信十足的人知道，一個能在今天执行的较好计划，胜过一个将来才能执行的伟大计划。他们不去等“恰当的时机”或者“恰当的境况”，因为他们知道这些反应是对变化的恐惧。他们就在这里、现在、今天采取行动——因为只有做到这一点才会进步。
5. They Don’t Obsess Over the Opinions of Others
从不为他人的看法耿耿于怀
Highly confident people don’t get caught up in negative feedback. While they do care about the well being of others and aim to make a positive impact in the world， they don’t get caught up in negative opinions that they can’t do anything about. They know that their true friends will accept them as they are， and they don’t concem themselves with the rest. 自信十足的人不会陷入负面的反馈。尽管他们的确关注其他人的幸福安康，并致力于对世界产生积极的影响，但他们并不会陷入那些他们认为对此无能为力的负面看法中。他们知道，真正的朋友会接受他们的现状，至于其他人的想法，他们并不在意。
6. They Don’t Judge People
从不妄议他人长短
Highly confident people have no tolerance for unnecessary， self-inflicted drama. They don’t feel the need to insult fnends behind their backs， participate in gossip about fellow co-workers or lash out at folks with different opinions. They are so comfortable in who they are that they feel no need to look down on other people.
自信十足的人不会容忍没必要的、自找的闹剧;在背后侮辱朋友，传播同事的流言蜚语，或对持不同观点的人大肆抨击，因为他们很享受自己的状况，没必要去蔑视他人。
7. They Don’t Let Lack of Resources Stop Them
从不受阻于资源不足
Highly confident people can make use of whatever resources they have， no matter how big or small. They know that all things are possible with creativity and a refusal to quit. They don’t agonize over setbacks， but rather focus on finding a solution.
自信十足的人能够对所拥有的任何资源物尽其用，无论多少。因为他们知道，善用创意，拒绝放弃，可以将一切都变得可能。他们不会因挫折而自怨自艾，而是专注于寻找解决之道。
8. They Don’t Make Comparisons
从不盲目攀比
Highly confident people know that they are not competing with any other person. They compete with no other individual except the person they were yesterday. They know that every person is Iiving a story so unique that drawing compansons would be an absurd and simplistic exercise in futility.
自信十足的人知道他们并不是在和其他任何人竞争——他们的对手从来不是别人，而是昨天的自己。他们也知道，每个人的生活都是独一无二的，所以盲目比较只是荒谬而单纯的徒劳。
9. They Don’t Find Joy in People-pleasing
从不以取悦他人为乐
Highly confident people have no interest in pleasing every person they meet. They are aware that not all people get along， and that’s just how life works. They focus on the quality of their relationships， instead of the quantity of them.
自信十足的人没兴趣去取悦遇到的每一个人。他们很清楚，并非所有人都能相知相交——人生就是这样。所以，他们看中与他人关系的质量，而非数量。
10. They Don’t Need Constant Reassurance
从不依赖持续的安慰
Highly confident people aren’t in need of handholding. They know that life isn’t fair and things won’t always go their way. While they can’t control every event in their life， they focus on their power to react in a positive way that moves them forward.
自信十足的人不需要關怀备至。他们知道人生是不公平的，事情的发展也并非总是如他们所愿。尽管他们无法掌控生活中的每件事，但他们会集中力量积极应对，让自己不断前进。
11. They Don’t Avoid Life’s“Inconvenient Truths”
从不回避人生中“不方便的真相”
Highly confident people confront life’s issues at the root before the disease can spread any farther. They know that problems left unaddressed have a way of multiplying as the days， weeks and months go by. They would rather have an un-comfortable conversation with their partner today than sweep an inconvenient truth under the rug， putting trust at risk. 自信十足的人往往从根源入手，直面人生中的难题，而不是等到后果扩散地更远而再去应对。他们知道，如果放任问题不去处理，它们就会随着每天、每周、每月的积累而扩大。他们宁愿就在今天与合伙人进行一次尴尬的对话，也不愿冒着失去信任的危险，掩盖这个“不方便的真相”。
12. They Don’t Quit Because of Minor Set-backs
从不因微不足道的挫折而放弃
Highly confident people get back up every time they fall down. They know that failure is an unavoidable part of the growth process. They are like a detective， searching for clues that reveal why this approach didn’t work.After modifying their plan， they try again （but better this time）.
每当自信十足的人失败跌倒时，他们都能重整旗鼓，他们知道失败是成长之路上不可避免的一部分。他们就像侦探一样，探寻那些能揭示这个方法为何行不通的线索。重新调整方案之后，他们便再次尝试（但这一次他们会做得更好）。
13. They Don’t Require Anyone’s Permission to Act
从不需要别人的许可
Highly confident people take action without hesitation. Every day， they remind themselves， “If not me， who？”
自信十足的人行动起来绝不拖泥带水。每天他们都会提醒自己：“舍我其谁？”
14. They Don’t Limit Themselves to a Small Toolbox
从不把自己局限在狭小的空间
Highly confident people don’t limit themselves to Plan A. They make use of any and all weapons that are at their disposal， relentlessly testing the effectiveness of every approach， until they identify the strategies that offer the most results for the least cost in time and effort.
自信十足的人绝不会把自己限制在单一的计划上。他们会利用手头上的所有“武器”，不懈地试验每种方法的有效性，直到识别出那种用时最少、劳动成本最低、产出最大的策略。
15. They Don’t Blindly Accept What They Read on the Intemet as“Truth” Without Thinking About It
从不盲目地接受网络上所谓的“真相”
Highly confident people don’t accept articles on the Internet as truth just because some author“said so”. They look at every how to article from the lens of their unique perspective. They maintain a healthy skepticism， making use of any material that is relevant to their lives， and forgetting about the rest. While articles like this are a fun and interesting thought-exercise， highly confident people know that they are the only person with the power to decide what“confidence”means.
自信十足的人，并不會因为一些作者的说辞，就把他们在网上看到的文章认定为“真相”。他们会用各自独特的视角，来审视每一篇指导性的文章。他们会利用与他们生活相关的一切资源，并忽略其他，以此来秉持一种健康的怀疑态度。尽管像这样的文章是一次有趣的思维训练，但是自信十足的人知道，只有他们才有能力确定“信任”的真正意义。