“住校”是中学生自立的开始。在面临繁重的课业负担和复杂的人际关系的大背景下,许多独生子女及其独生子女家长对“住校”选择了“不”。本文从不同的视角和亲身的经历介绍了帮助女儿快乐“住校”的经验,旨在说明:应尽早培养孩子的独立生活的能力,因为任何一个依赖他人(家庭)的人,都是未长大的人,是一个不能自立的人。 “Living in a school” is the beginning of secondary school self-reliance. Against the background of heavy academic burdens and complicated interpersonal relationships, many only-children and their only-child parents chose “no” for “staying in school.” The article introduces the experience of helping her daughter to be happy “living in a school” from different perspectives and personal experiences. The purpose of this article is to show that the ability to independently develop a child’s life should be raised as early as possible because anyone who depends on others (the family) Large people, is a person who can not be independent.