在父性和母性之间寻找平衡点,理智对待犯了错误的孩子每个孩子甚至每个成人都会偶尔犯错,这是很正常的。如果父母对此反应过于激烈或是无动于衷,都会给孩子造成错觉。在此问题上父母的表现往往不尽相同,母亲通常表现得更为敏感。例如,当老师电告孩子在学校里调皮捣蛋时,母亲会急着想赶到学校,弄清到底发生了什么事。父亲却未觉得问题哪有这么严重,或是认为并不需要自己参与。因为本质上母亲更易将孩子的不良行为视作自己的过错,而父亲会为孩子取得的成就感 Finding a balance between paternal and maternity, treating the wrong child wisely Every child, even every adult, makes occasional mistakes, which is normal. If parents respond too violently or indifferently, it will give the child an illusion. Parents often perform differently on this issue, and mothers usually behave more sensitively. For example, when a teacher asks a child to be mischievously naughty at school, her mother will be anxious to rush to school to find out exactly what happened. My father did not think there was a problem so serious, or did not think they need to participate. Because in essence mothers are more likely to regard children’s bad behavior as their fault, and the sense of accomplishment that fathers make for their children