第一种丈夫：在外柔弱，在内也柔弱。妻子的所得是：安宁与和谐，即很太平──这是家庭最基本的价值，几乎等同于幸福。妻子的所失是：由于丈夫在社会竞争中常常是失败者，因此通过丈夫的晋升、加薪或各种社会性成功来提高；生活水平与满足虚荣心的愿望，往往落空。 第二种丈夫 The first husband: weak outside, also weak inside. His wife’s income is: peace and harmony, that is very peaceful ─ ─ this is the most basic family value, almost the same as happiness. The loss of his wife is: As husbands are often losers in social competition, their husbands’ promotion, salary increases or various social successes increase; and their standard of living and the desire to satisfy vanity often fail. The second husband