进入中学以后,他们自我意识开始觉醒,独立性增强,社会化程度提高,眼光也开始投向变化中的社会,因而产生了许多理想与现实格格不入的问题和矛盾。要使家长的思想教育、德育摆脱被动的局面,从而更积极、更主动、更有效地帮助孩子健康成长,必须研究新形势下青少年的思想状况,并以此为依据制订正确、有效的教育对策。笔者认为主要包括以下几个方面:(1)需要合理与满足的矛盾;(2)索取奉献与给予的矛盾;(3)能力独立与依赖的矛盾。 After entering secondary school, their self-awareness began to awaken, their independence increased, and their socialization increased. Their eyes also began to invest in changing societies, resulting in many problems and contradictions that were incompatible with their ideals and reality. In order to make parents’ ideological education and moral education get rid of the passive situation, so that they can help their children grow up more actively, more actively and effectively, it is necessary to study the ideological conditions of adolescents in the new situation and formulate correct and effective education strategies . The author believes that it mainly includes the following aspects: (1) the conflict that needs to be reasonable and satisfied; (2) the conflict between dedication and giving; (3) the conflict between independence and dependence of ability.