常常有青年朋友对我说:“我怎么总是进入不了朋友圈子?”“我怎么老是没有可交谈的话题?”“我怎样才能对我的意中人表达我的情感?”等等,这些都涉及到社交中常见的一个心理问题——羞怯。羞怯和孤独不一定同时存在,但孤独常常是 Often have a young friend said to me: “How can I always get into the circle of friends? ” “How do I always have no conversation? ” "How can I express my feelings to my favorite? And so on, all of these involve a common psychological problem in social-shyness. Shyness and loneliness do not necessarily exist at the same time, but loneliness is often