在有些家庭中,“老大”排斥甚至抵制二孩的言行,带给了父母许多压力。孩子的这些话,反映出了他们内心的某种心声。其实对于儿童来讲,其心智尚不成熟,其责任感和道德体系有待建立,对父母的依赖性强,当意识到自己独占的东西有可能被分出去一半时,出现紧张情绪和不安全感是正常的。父母通过积极的感知和共情也能逐渐消除孩 In some families, “boss ” exclusion or even resist the two children’s words and deeds, gave parents a lot of pressure. These words of the child reflect some of their inner feelings. In fact, for children, their mentality is not yet mature, and their sense of responsibility and moral system needs to be established. Their dependence on parents is strong. When they realize that their exclusive items may be separated by half, nervousness and insecurity are normal. Parents can gradually eliminate their children through positive perception and empathy