孩子的执拗、任性常常反映了他们对父母严厉管束的不满。譬如有一位爸爸在吃饭时对孩子的每一个动作都要教训一番,“吃饭时不许说话!”不要把叉子放在牙齿上,这样太危险!“”不要把手伸进盘子里!’“吃东西不许发出响声,不然我们谁都不跟你一起坐……”儿子似乎在有意逗爸爸,爸爸却唠叼得更起劲了,结果必然会引起孩子的不满。一般孩子从三至五岁开始要求独立并坚持自已的愿望。他们任性的要求会引起家长的注意。因此与其说孩子的固执行为是其性格特点的表现,倒不如说是 Children’s stubbornness and self-willedness often reflect their dissatisfaction with their parents’ rigor. For example, a father in the meal to learn about every action of the child, “Do not speak when eating! ” Do not put the fork on the teeth, so dangerous! “” Do not put your hand in the plate ’’ Eating is not allowed to sound, or we do not sit with you ... ... ’"Son seems to deliberately tease Dad, Papa nagging more vigorously, the result will inevitably cause children’s dissatisfaction. The average child starts from three to five years of age to claim independence and to uphold their own aspirations. Their capricious demands will draw the attention of parents. So much so that children’s stubbornness is their performance characteristics, so much so