生活中有许多人会把自己的心理问题归结于童年创伤,如小时候经常目睹父母暴力相向而导致自己对结婚生育恐惧,父母对自己成长的忽略导致自己人际关系不良,父母离异家庭分裂导致自己缺乏安全感等等,从精神分析的角度来讲,这可能没有错。但是仅仅认识到这一点并不能帮助我们解决自己的心理问题,因为我们的童年一去不复返,我们不可能改变过去,那么如何调整自己的认知,如何让自己从过去的阴影中走出来呢?以前你受到伤害的时候只是个不谙世事的小孩 Many people in life will put their psychological problems attributed to childhood traumas, such as childhood often witnessed their parents violence led to fear of marriage and childbearing, parental neglect of their own growth led to their poor interpersonal relationships, divorced families divorced led to their lack of Security, etc., from the psychoanalysis point of view, this may not be wrong. But just realizing that does not help us solve our own psychological problems because our childhood is gone, we can not change the past, then how to adjust our own perceptions and how to get ourselves out of the shadows of the past What happened to you before? When you were hurt, you were just an innocent child