首先定个小目标:别饿着别冻着,大人能休息好。养孩子这件事,正常情况下应该是爸爸和妈妈两个人+孩子能够独立完成的。如果一个孩子需要一个团队来带,而且还手忙脚乱,那肯定是效率出了问题。缺乏有效的团队结构前段时间高中同学生了宝宝,和我说现在家里有她、老公、奶奶、保姆四个大人来照顾一个刚满月的宝宝,效率奇低,而且基本上每个大人都睡不成觉。娃半夜哭了,妈妈换尿不湿,爸爸热奶,奶奶在旁边哄,手忙脚乱终于把娃弄睡了,三个大人都精神了,基本上不可能再睡回去。家庭就像一支队伍,需要有效的团队结构,谁在哪个时段负责什么,越明确越 First set a small target: Do not be hungry, do not freeze, adults can rest well. Raising a child this, under normal circumstances should be father and mother two children + children can be done independently. If a child needs a team to bring, but also rush, it must be efficiency problems. Lack of effective team structure Some time ago high school students had a baby, and I said now home with her husband, grandmother, nanny four adults to take care of a full moon baby, inefficient, and basically every adult can not sleep feel. Waqian cried at midnight, my mother change the diaper, my father hot milk, grandma next to coax, finally got the baby to sleep, the three adults are spiritually, basically impossible to sleep back. Family is like a team, need a valid team structure, who is responsible for what time, the clearer the more