“礼仪”一直以来都与道德、法律和制度互为表里,深深维系着社会人伦道德观念,影响着人们生活的方方面面。本文通过对英国古典时代剧《唐顿庄园》的观察,来比较中英传统社会里“与人交往之礼”的一些不同。笔者从中英礼仪的异同来看礼仪背后所反映的道德,从跨文化的角度来比较中英的一些传统人伦观念,亦寻找到了中西文化中的一些“共鸣点”。 “Etiquette ” has always been interdependent with morality, law and system, deeply maintaining the moral values ​​of human relations in society, affecting all aspects of people’s lives. This article compares some of the differences between the “courtesy of man and man” in the traditional Chinese and English society through the observation of the English classic drama Downton Abbey. From the similarities and differences between Chinese and English etiquette, I look at the ethics reflected in etiquette and compare some traditional concepts of human relations between China and Britain from a cross-cultural perspective. I also find some “resonance points” in Chinese and Western cultures.