我们都有这种经历:你要告诉某人你的真实想法。但是如何把你的难言之隐告诉一个你很在意的人,而不至于伤害甚至破坏你们的关系?我们需要告诉他人的诸多事情中大约有95%是容易说出的,因为它们或是让人爱听,或是生活中常有的事,或是证实一切均好。但就是那另外的5%让我们有些不知所措。一旦面临这种情形,我们往往退却,缄口不言。但是沉默,尽管极具诱惑力,往往并非上策,或根本就不能作 We all have this experience: You have to tell someone your real thoughts. But how can you tell someone you care about, without hurting or even ruining your relationship? About 95 percent of the things we need to tell others are easy to say because they are either , Or something that is often in life, or that everything is fine. But that’s the other 5% that makes us feel overwhelmed. Once faced with this situation, we often retreat and keep silent. But silence, though tempting, is often not the best policy, or it cannot be done at all.