孩子有了一定的独立意识之后,免不了要与同伴发生争吵。剔除个别孩子的强蛮无理,大多数孩子的争吵其实并非是绝对的坏事,而是他们学习正确处理人际关系的某种“练习”。笔者邻居的几个孩子常来找我女儿玩耍,几个孩子凑在一起,不时会因一块积木的搭法、一 Children have a certain sense of independence, inevitably have to quarrel with their peers. Excluding the irrationality of individual children, most children’s quarrels are not the absolute bad thing, but rather they are somehow “learning” to learn how to deal with relationships properly. Several of my neighbors often come to my daughter to play, a few children together, from time to time because of the building blocks of a take, a