《红楼梦》第 ２５回有这样一段记述：王熙风对林黛玉说，“你既吃了我们家的茶，怎么还不给我们家做媳妇？”吃茶往往与娶亲联系在一起。人们把婚姻礼仪称为“三茶之礼”（订婚为“下茶”，结婚为“定茶”，同房为“合茶”）。 关于茶与婚姻的记述还有很多。例如： 以茶寻偶。 “Dream of Red Mansions” has a paragraph on the 25th time: Wang Xifeng said to Lin Daiyu: “You have eaten our family’s tea. Why haven’t you given our family a wife?” Tea is often associated with the family. People refer to marriage etiquette as “three tea rituals” (engaged as “chaxing”, married as “dingcha”, and the same room as “joining tea”). There are many descriptions of tea and marriage. For example: Search for tea.