三月的一天,某家报社报道了一位女大学生为了帮男友还债,精心策划、自导自演了一起麻醉抢劫案,让男友“抢”走了她以出国留学为由,从亲生父母那里骗来的18万元人民币。由于演得太逼真,她差点被冻死在“抢劫”现场。 原来,女大学生与男友相识于中学时代,日久生情,虽然父母不同意其相恋,但女孩实在难以割舍这份感情。于是,当男友遇到麻烦急需用钱时,女孩思前想后决定向自己的父母“伸手”。 至于为什么要采取这种方式,女孩的解释是:父母亲和我相差近40岁;除了抓我的学习,从来不给我交流的机会。对于他们的建议,我只能是一味地服从,像高考填写志愿一类的事情,也是由父亲代劳的。在这个问题上,女孩感到为难的是:一边是执拗的父母,一边是愿意为自己付出一切的男友,真不知该如何选择。 虽说出于多方面的考虑,警方已决定不再追究当事人的法律责任,但事件本身令人深思。为什么一个大学生会做出如此荒唐的事情,这个事件又说明了什么呢?本栏目请三位心理工作者从不同角度谈谈个人的看法,让我们在思考中有所裨益。 One day in March, a newspaper reporter reported that a female university student had to pay her boyfriend to repay debts, carefully planned, and led a self-described narcotic robbery case to let her boyfriend “grab” To 180,000 yuan. She was almost frozen to death at the scene of “Robbery” due to her acting too realistic. It turned out that female students and her boyfriend met in high school, growing in love, although parents do not agree with their love, but the girl is really hard to let go of this feeling. So, when her boyfriend in trouble in urgent need of money, the girl decided to think after his parents to “reach out.” As for why you should take this approach, the girl’s explanation is: My parents and I have a difference of nearly 40 years of age; In addition to grasping my study, I never give me the chance to communicate. As for their suggestions, I can only obey them blindly, like filling a volunteer class in college entrance examination, and doing the same for my father. On this issue, girls feel embarrassed: one side is stubborn parents, one side is willing to give everything for her boyfriend, I really do not know how to choose. Although for many reasons, the police have decided not to pursue the legal responsibilities of the parties, but the incident itself is thought-provoking. Why does a college student make such absurd things, and what does this event mean? In this column, we asked three psychologists to talk about personal opinions from different perspectives and help us to think through them.