让孩子成为“鹰”,还是“风筝”,实际上代表着两种不同的养育子女的理念。把孩子视为风筝,实际上将孩子看做一个被动者,一个由父母牵引、操控的“物体”。按照这一理念,孩子的一切行动,就得向父母汇报。由此,查看孩子的日记、信件,询问与同学、朋友通电话的内容,而不管孩子本身是否愿意,就成了十分自然的事。持此一理念的父母,还容易将自己的愿望、梦想强加给孩子。他们为孩子设计好了一 Letting children become “eagles” or “kites” actually means two different concepts of parenting. Think of a child as a kite, in fact, a child as a passive person, an “object” that is towed and manipulated by parents. According to this idea, all the children’s actions must be reported to their parents. Therefore, it is quite natural to check the children’s diaries, letters, and ask about the phone conversation with classmates and friends, regardless of whether the children themselves are willing to do so. Parents holding this idea, but also easy to impose their own wishes, dreams to children. They designed one for kids