做父亲的应该得到两种最基本的认同:妻子的认同和儿女的认同,妻子的认同不用多说。为人父者还必须让儿女认同,而这一点,往往被做父亲的忽略了,以至于今天不少人认为“父亲是一个遥远的存在”。其实父亲并不“遥远”,只是要演好父亲这一角色,就要不断地认知和学习。换句话说,就 Father should get two kinds of most basic identity: wife’s identity and children’s identity, his wife needless to say. The father must also acknowledge his children, and this is often ignored by his father, so many people today think that “father is a distant being.” In fact, my father is not “far away”. Only to perform this role as a father, we must constantly recognize and learn. In other words,