通常,我们很难平心静气地等待花开花落,很难心平气和地接受生命无常,更难忍受我们爱的孩子没有达成心愿时的失望与痛苦。有时,孩子只需要一个眼神,我们家长立刻心领神会,想尽一切办法满足他们。没有让孩子延迟等待,看似是对孩子的爱,其实是对孩子成长的一种伤害。培养孩子克服当前困难,获得长远利益的能力,鼓励他们学会自我调整,学会及时地抑制欲望从而获得更长远或更大的收获,我们即使感觉再难也值得。没关系,让孩子多等一等。 Often, it is very difficult for us to wait for the flowers to flow calmly, it is difficult to calmly accept the impermanence of life, and it is even harder to endure the disappointments and pains of our beloved children when they fail to achieve their aspirations. Sometimes, children only need a look, our parents immediately take the hint, do everything possible to satisfy them. Did not let the child delay waiting, seeming to be the love of children, in fact, is a kind of damage to the growth of children. To cultivate children’s ability to overcome the current difficulties and gain long-term benefits, encourage them to learn to adjust themselves and learn to suppress their desires in time so as to obtain more long-term or greater gains, we feel worth it even if it feels harder. It does not matter, let the children wait and see.