表扬过多避免让孩子受到自己期望的束缚。如果孩子总是听到说他“很独特”,那么当他没有耐心收拾房间时就会感觉很不好。如果老是听到说他“聪明极了”,那么当他学习成绩不好时就会感到非常失望。最好对具体的事情提出表扬,例如说“祝贺你算术得了满分”。提问过多质问很难使你的孩子讲心里话。例如总是问在学校怎么样或者课间休息时做些什么,你 Too much praise to avoid the fetters of their own expectations. If the child always heard that he was “unique,” he felt bad when he did not have the patience to tidy up the room. If you always hear that he is “smart,” he will feel very disappointed when he does not have a good academic record. It is best to praise something specific, say “Congratulations, you’ve got the perfect score.” Excessive questioning It is difficult to make your child speak honestly. For example, always ask what to do at school or during recess, you