适度的家庭教育可以帮助学生延续学校教育,但是,如果家长拔苗助长,对孩子的学习、对学校的教育其实是很大的破坏。多年来从事家庭教育研究工作的吴文儒老师总结了家庭教育中常见的四个误区:误区一:把孩子当作实现自己梦想的工具。很多家长都曾表示,要让孩子实现自己当年的梦想,但是简单地把孩子当作自己“还愿”的工具,反而会使孩子产生逆反心理,会让孩子感觉他学习是为了父母,而不是自身主动愿意学习。吴文儒举例,曾经向她咨询过的一个孩子,从小喜欢无线电单片机,但学生的 Modest family education can help students continue their schooling, but if parents pluck their hands and help their children’s learning, the education of their schools is actually a great devastation. Wu Wenru, who has been engaged in family education research for many years, summed up four common misunderstandings in family education: Myth # 1: Use Children as a Tool to Realize Their Dreams. Many parents have said that to make their children realize their own dreams of the past, simply using their children as their own “willingness” tool will instead make the child feel rebellious and will let the child feel that he is learning to be a parent, Not self-willingness to learn. Wu Wenru, for example, once consulted a child with her, grew up with a radio microcontroller, but students