几乎没有人不熟悉自己的母亲。母亲对女儿的成长产生极为重要的影响,她不仅孕育了孩子的整个机体,而且是女儿的第一位灵魂工程师。也许由于这种缘故,人们往往把女儿当做母亲的化身,还把女孩的过错归咎于她的母亲。实质上,这样把母女关系简单化,就容易造成许多误解与矛盾。为了建立和保持亲密融洽的母女关系,作为母亲,首先应该真正懂得自己在女儿生活中的作用,其次要经常注意自己在女儿心目中的美好形象。母亲怎样对待周围的人们,比如父亲、子女、亲朋好友、左邻右舍等等;是否尊重别人;怎样处理家务;她的外貌、穿着打扮和言谈举止……总之,这一切都对女儿产生着潜移默化的影响。但是,女儿并不总是以母亲作为楷模,有些时期她对自己的父亲更加亲近,并且有意识或无意识地仿效父亲。 Few people are not familiar with their mother. Mother has a very important influence on the growth of her daughter, she not only gave birth to the child’s entire body, but also the daughter’s first soul engineer. Perhaps because of this, people often regard their daughter as their mother’s incarnation, and blame the girl’s fault on her mother. In essence, simplifying the relationship between mother and daughter in this way easily leads to many misunderstandings and contradictions. In order to establish and maintain a close relationship between mother and daughter, as a mother, one should first really understand her role in her daughter’s life and secondly, she should always pay attention to her own beautiful image in her daughter’s mind. Her mother how to deal with the people around her, such as father, children, relatives and friends, neighbors, etc; whether to respect others; how to deal with housework; her appearance, dress and manner of speech ... In a word, Subtle effects. However, her daughter is not always a model for her mother, she has been closer to her father during times and has emulated her father consciously or unconsciously.