随着社会的不断发展,我国的家庭结构也在悄然发生着变化。单亲家庭、隔代教养这种现象越来越多地出现。尤其对于一些父母离异由老人代为抚养的孩子来说,在老人的心里,他们会觉得自己的孙子、孙女缺少了父母的关爱,已经很可怜了,再加上老人家本身存在的一种补偿心理。所以,他们对孩子毫无原则的迁就和溺爱,什么事都一手包揽代劳,以致造成孩子任性、依赖性强和生活自理能力低下的结果。还有的祖父母因过度疼爱孩子而护短,致使孩子的缺点因长期得不到矫 With the continuous development of society, the family structure of our country is also quietly changing. Single-parent families, inter-generational raising this phenomenon more and more appear. Especially for some children whose parents divorce and are raised by the elderly, in the heart of the elderly, they feel that their grandchildren and granddaughters lacked the care of their parents. They are already very poor and they are compensated by the mentality of the elderly themselves. Therefore, they have no principle of indulgence and indulgence in their children, and they have all done everything in their power so as to result in the result of the children’s low self-determination, dependence and self-care ability. Some grandparents care too much for children and protect children shortcomings, resulting in the shortcomings of children because of long-term lack of correction