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发牢骚也有艺术性。如果你想让自己的牢骚话有所值,不妨留意一下专家的建议:只向你认为伤害到你的人抱怨,不要向其他人抱怨。别人并没有义务听你的怨言,再说,向一个并没有得罪你的人发牢骚也于事无补。所以,发牢骚首先要找准对象。不要在别人面前批评你反对的人。对大多数人而言,受到批评就像受到人身攻击一样。如果你当着别人批评对方,表明你并不在乎对方舒不舒服。为了对方和你,等到单独二人的时候再批评他,除非有什么特殊的理由,会使等待造成更大的伤害。
Whining is also artistic. If you want to make your grievance worth it, consider the advice of your experts: Just complain to people you think hurt you, and do not complain to others. There is no obligation for others to listen to your complaints, and it does not help to complain to someone who has not offended you. So, whistling, we must first identify the object. Do not criticize your opponents in front of others. For most people, being criticized is like a personal attack. If you criticize each other in front of others, that you do not care about each other uncomfortable. To criticize him and the other person until they are alone, unless there are any special reasons that will cause more harm to wait.