教育学家和心理学家都认为,对人应以表扬为主,尤其是处在成长期的孩子。表扬也有些学问,表扬应该用得恰到好处,否则,或许违背了您的初衷。首先,表扬应该有针对性。比如,您的孩子胆小怕事,您就应该鼓励他敢于出头、敢于说话。一旦他有明显的大胆表现,如上课主动发言、见客人主动问好说话,或晚上一个人走夜路回家,作为家长的都应及时提出表扬。而一些不适当的、随意性的表扬也应该注意针对性,有的孩子本来胆小,可家长还总是在人前说:“我们孩子胆小、不惹祸、不讨厌……”云云,这种表扬其实误 Both educators and psychologists agree that praise should be given primarily to people, especially those who are growing up. Praise is also some knowledge, praise should be used just right, otherwise, may be contrary to your original intention. First of all, recognition should be targeted. For example, if your child is timid, you should encourage him to dare to succeed and dare to speak. Once he has obvious daring performance, such as taking the initiative to speak in class, see the guests take the initiative to say hello, or go home night alone, as parents should promptly commend. Some inappropriate, casual praise should also be targeted, and some children would have been timid, but parents are always in front said: “Our children timid, do not trouble, do not hate ... ...” This praise is actually wrong