孩子们对大人的态度是很敏感的,即使这种态度没有表达出来。所以,我们如果对孩子怜悯,他们就认为自己更应怜悯自己。如果他们为自己难过,他们的不幸就更严重了,他们不是面对困境,想办法抢救,而是依赖别人的怜悯,等着别人来安慰他。在这个过程中,他们失去越来越多的勇气和解脱困境的意愿。 Children are very sensitive to the attitude of adults, even if this attitude is not expressed. Therefore, if we have mercy on our children, they think they should have more compassion on themselves. If they are sad for themselves, their misfortune is even more serious. Instead of facing difficulties and seeking rescue, they rely on the mercy of others and wait for others to comfort him. In the process, they lose more and more courage and will to get out of their predicament.