德国人认为,两代人之间的争辩,对于下一代来说,是成长的重要一步。因此,他们鼓励孩子就某件事与父母争辩,勇敢发表自己的意见。他们认为,通过争辩使孩子觉得父母有正义感,讲道理,孩子会打心眼儿里更加爱你,依赖你,尊重你。你要孩子做的事,孩子通过争辩弄明白了,会心悦诚服地去做。你有难题,孩子参与争辩,也能在不经意间启发你。德国的法律也提倡摈弃传统的家长权威,兼顾青少年不断增长的自立能力与独立愿望。 Germans believe that the debate between generations is an important step for the next generation. Therefore, they encourage their children to argue with their parents about something and bravely express their opinions. They believe that by arguing that children feel their parents have a sense of justice and reason, children will play heart to love you more, depend on you and respect you. What you want your child to do, and the child understands it through the arguments, will do it with all sincerity. You have problems, the children participate in the debate, but also inadvertently inspire you. German law also advocates the abandonment of the traditional parental authority and the adolescent’s increasing self-reliance and independence aspirations.