无论在家里,还是在公众场合,我们经常可以看到:年轻的父母不停地对着自己的孩子喊:“快点,快点,来不及了。”催促孩子“迅速”达到家长的要求。然而,事与愿违,孩子照样慢吞吞,令家长无可奈何。 心理学家研究发现,这样的催促语言强调了孩子的弱点,攻击了孩子的人格和自尊,反而使孩子在心理上产生了许多消极影响。比如:产生自卑心理,认为自己真的慢,自暴自弃;认为父母或成人讨厌自己,不喜欢自己,产生被抛弃感;丧 We often see, both at home and in public, young parents constantly shouting to their children: “Hurry up, hurry up, and it’s too late.” Promote the child to “reach” parents quickly. However, contrary to expectations, the child is still slow, so parents feel helpless. Psychologists study found that such language urges the language to emphasize the child’s weakness, attacking the child’s personality and self-esteem, but to make the child psychologically have many negative effects. For example: to produce inferiority complex, that they really slow, give up on themselves; that parents or adults hate themselves, do not like themselves, resulting in a sense of abandonment; funeral