民间有个说法叫“隔辈亲”,意思是老人对孙子孙女、外孙外孙女比对子女更亲。“隔辈亲”属于人之常情,特别是现在独生子女家庭的孩子,多数可以同时受到爷爷奶奶、外公外婆和父母的爱。然而,值得注意的是“隔辈亲”很容易演变成“隔辈溺”,即老人对孙辈的过分溺爱。笔者认为“隔辈溺”至少有以下几种表现:一日“全程服务”。有些老人视孙辈为掌上明珠,从清晨开始就为其提供上厕所、穿衣、洗脸、喂饭、去幼儿园接送等“优质服务”,直到晚上孩子熟睡才如释重负。 Folk has a saying called “every generation”, meaning the elderly relatives of grandchildren, grandchildren than relatives of relatives. “Every other generation” belongs to the human nature, especially the children of the one-child families, most of whom can receive the love of grandparents, grandparents and parents at the same time. However, it is noteworthy that “every generation” can easily evolve into “every generation drowned,” that is, the elderly over-spoiled their grandchildren. I believe that “every generation drowning” at least the following performance: a day “full service.” Some elders regard the grandchildren as pearl of the grandchildren. They provide “good service” such as going to the toilet, dressing, washing their face, feeding rice, and going to kindergarten from the early hours of the morning until their children fall asleep at night.