同情好不好?亚当·斯密和叔本华说好,视为最主要的道德;尼采说不好,认为会损害被同情者的尊严和痛苦的价值。我的看法是,两种观点各有道理,不妨结合起来。一方面,作为个人,在遭遇痛苦的时候,要尽量自己忍受和解决,不向别人诉说,不博取同情,这是自尊,也是对他人的尊重。另一方面,作为社会,在帮助弱者的时候,不可伤害受助者的自尊自强。总之,尊重第一,同情第二。同情要以尊重为前提,才是好东西。 Is sympathy good or bad? Adam Smith and Schopenhauer are right to say that they are the most important morals; Nietzsche is not good enough to detract from the value of the dignity and suffering of the sympathizers. My opinion is that both views have their own merits and may be combined. On the one hand, as individuals, when suffering, they should try their best to endure and resolve themselves. They should not complain to others or seek sympathy. This is self-esteem and respect for others. On the other hand, as a society, helping the weaker should not hurt the self-esteem of the recipients. In short, respect first, compassion second. It is a good thing to be sympathetic on the premise of respect.