杨医生:首先请原谅我冒昧打扰你。我是在校的大学生,多年来,一直为自卑情绪所困扰,班会上我怕发言,人多的场合我怕讲话,在我喜欢的女同学面前,我更是怕自己做错了什么……总之,我很自卑,觉得自己总是不如别人,我也曾试图改变自己,但结果事与愿违,反而因紧张说话结巴,引起别人的耻笑……现在,我对自己越来越没有信心了……” 在心理咨询门诊里,我会经常碰到这种为自卑而苦恼的人。仔细观察,这种人往往有两个突出的心理特征:一是在过高过强的个人期望价值观念支配下,总想在别人面前有个好印象,得到别人的尊重和好评,因而也就特别注意自 Dr. Yang: First, please forgive me for taking the liberty to disturb you. I am a college student, and have been bothered by inferiority for many years. I was afraid to speak at class meetings. I was afraid to speak on the occasion of crowds. Before I like the girls, I was even more afraid of what I had done wrong ... In short, I feel very inferior, I feel always inferior to others, I also tried to change myself, but the result was contrary to expectations, but due to nervous stuttering, causing others to laugh ... Now I have less confidence in myself ... ... " In the counseling clinic, I often encounter such people who are distressed for inferiority.When careful observation, such people tend to have two prominent psychological characteristics: First, under the overly strong personal expectations of the values, Always want to have a good impression in front of others, others get the respect and praise, so they pay special attention to since