我每次和做母亲的讨论他们的教养方式,总会听到有人抱怨:“我家那个孩子都不听我的话,实在非常困扰,害我每次都得不厌其烦地提醒他。”但是,仔细想想这句话,她说的“不厌其烦地提醒”,也许就是孩子不听话的症结所在。也就是说,在孩子的心理上,父母所交待的事随时都还会听到,因为安心的缘故,就常常把他们的话当成耳边风。因此,大人要教孩子什么时,或是要交待他们做某事, Every time I talk to my mother about their mode of parenting, I always hear someone complaining: “The child in my family did not listen to me and it was so disturbing that I always reminded him of it.” But think carefully Think of this sentence, she said, “take the trouble to remind,” perhaps the crux of the children disobedient. That is to say, in the child’s psychology, what the parents have to say will be heard at any time, because of the peace of mind, they often use their words as earwigs. Therefore, when adults want to teach their children what, or to explain that they do something,