这是一个刚刚发生的鲜活的成长个案。君君(化名),浙北某县城小学五年级的男孩,一个典型的问题男孩。他性格自闭,性情暴躁,动作磨蹭,我行我素,对师长的表扬或批评都无动于衷,软硬不吃,与师长的对立情绪和逆反心理与日俱增。从上幼儿园至今,8年时间中,君君的父母为了君君的教育问题可算是费尽心机,但君君身上的问题似乎越来越严重了。为了解决儿子的问题,父母四处求助:他们先是专程赴上海某知名医院看心理门诊,但未见效果;继而辗转杭州,寻求得到我的帮助。经过两个月的持续跟踪、矫正,君君终于变了——那是一种脱胎换骨的变化,八年来令父母担心的各种心理和行为问题已一扫而光。这个结果,令熟悉君君的亲朋好友感到惊讶不已。我在得到君君妈妈的同意后,整理了两个月来我与君君、君君妈妈交流的90多封电子邮件及其电话记录,这些材料详细记录了君君与他妈妈心理变化的轨迹。在这里我将这些原始材料按其内在逻辑略作梳理、删减,献给广大父母,希望父母们能从中得到启发。——作者手记 This is a vivid growth case that has just taken place. Jun Jun (a pseudonym), a county in northern Zhejiang fifth grade primary school boy, a typical problem boy. His character is autistic, his temper, his actions dawned on his own way, indifferent to the teacher’s commendation or criticism, hard and soft not to eat, and the teacher’s antagonism and rebellious psychology increasing. From the kindergarten to the present, in 8 years, the monarch’s parents’ education for the king’s monarch can be exhausted, but the problem with the monarch seems more and more serious. In order to solve his son’s problem, his parents asked for assistance: they made a special trip to go to a well-known hospital in Shanghai to see psychiatric clinics, but they did not see the result. They went to Hangzhou and sought my help. After two months of continuous follow-up and rectification, Jun Jun has finally changed - that is a change that has taken place in her life. All kinds of psychological and behavioral problems that have worried her parents for eight years have been swept away. This result, so familiar with the relatives and friends Junjun surprised. When I got the consent of my mom and dad, I collected over 90 e-mails and telephone records of my conversations with my elder king and my mom in the past two months. These materials recorded in detail the psychological changes of the king and her mom . Here I will sort out these original materials according to their internal logic slightly, cut, dedicated to the parents, I hope parents can be inspired. - the author’s notes