在谈话时认真倾听对方叙说是一种基本的礼貌。然而大多数女性在闲聊“八卦”或偷听别人谈话时才会真正去“听”。在一项调查中,绝大部分女性承认自己只有在跟朋友闲聊时,才会集中注意力听对方说话,但在偷听附近发生的争吵时会特别投入。其中,与同事对话时女性最容易走神,平均只能听到对方64%的话。如果谈话对象是上司,三分之二女性能“听到”对方的话;如果谈话对象是 It is a basic courtesy to listen closely to each other when talking. Most women, however, do not really “listen” when chatting about “gossip” or eavesdropping on others. In a survey, the overwhelming majority of women admitted that they focused on listening to each other only when chatting with friends, but were especially devoted to eavesdropping on quarrels in the neighborhood. Among them, women are most likely to be distracted in their conversations with colleagues, who can only hear 64% of the other words on average. If the target of conversation is a boss, two-thirds of women can “hear” each other’s words; if the target of conversation is