常有朋友为人际关系而烦恼,也有意无意地向我求教。我总是说一些与人为善的话来安慰他们,其实,我自己也常常为这种事情弄得情绪不安。从小就不擅长与人打交道,特别是对不喜欢我的人和我不喜欢的人,没有特别的办法。也许,这种感情用事,说成优点,叫做重感情讲义气;说成缺点,叫做意气用事,不能团结与自己意见不同或反对自己的人。 Often friends are troubled by relationships, but also ask me for help, intentionally or unintentionally. I always say some good words to comfort them, in fact, I myself often make such things upset. I was not good at dealing with people from an early age, especially for people who do not like me and people I do not like. There is no special way. Perhaps this kind of sentimentality is said to be a merit, which is called reliance on feelings. When it is said to be shortcomings, it is called acting on emotions and can not unite people who differ from themselves or oppose themselves.