大家都知道,孩子年龄小性格脆弱,自尊心较强,考试成绩好时兴高彩烈,考试成绩不理想时往往情绪低落。作为孩子的第一亲近人——父母,在对待孩子考试成绩上能否把握好处理方法,对孩子今后的学习显得至关重要。把握好处理方法能使成绩好的孩子再接再厉,戒骄戒躁,树立良好的学习动机,能使成绩差的孩子,树立信心,克服困难,增强学习毅力,最终向良性发展;相反方法掌握的不好,能使成绩好的孩子骄傲自满,形成不健康的学习动机,使成绩差的孩子挫伤积极性,损伤了孩子的自尊心,最终是事与愿违。眼下有相当一部分父母,盲目地崇拜孩子的考试分数,甚至有的家长允诺孩子:“考试成绩名列班级前几名或考100分奖励100元,考上重点中学,送一个高档玩具。”如果孩子得了较好的分数,则百般娇宠;如果考分不理想,则指责谩骂,甚至惩罚,孩子免不了要受皮肉之苦。在分数的压力下,孩子常常丧失学习信心,而且外在的奖励会自然地削弱学习兴趣。 As we all know, the children are young and weak in character, strong in self-esteem, good grades in exams, and high scores. When the exam results are not satisfactory, they often feel depressed. As the children’s first close person - parents, children in the examination scores on the ability to take a good approach, the children’s future study is crucial. A good grasp of the method can make good grades redouble their efforts, arrogance and rashness, establish a good motivation for learning, can make poor performance of children, build confidence, overcome difficulties, enhance learning perseverance, and ultimately healthy development; the opposite way to master the Good, can make proud children complacent, forming unhealthy learning motivation, so that poor performance of children frustrated enthusiasm, damage the child’s self-esteem, and ultimately contrary to expectations. Now a considerable part of parents blindly worship the child’s test scores, and some parents even promised their children: “test scores among the top class or test 100 reward 100 yuan, admitted to key middle schools, send a high-end toys.” If Children get a better score, then everything is spoiled; if the test scores are not ideal, accused abuse, or even punishment, the child will inevitably suffer bitter skin. Under the pressure of scores, children often lose their learning confidence, and external rewards naturally weaken their interest in learning.