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导语新学年伊始,你肯定想象不到学校附属的心理辅导室有多忙!在高中任心理辅导员的陈老师说:“这个月.我和学生的预约谈心量是接下来3个月的总和!升入毕业班和新学校、插班转学、更换班主任或主课老师、由走读转为寄宿……每一种变化都会使青春期的孩子产生不适应感。”作为独生子女,以自我为中心的心态很强,缺乏主动适应环境的积极心态.总消极地希望等待环境来适应自己。这种幻想在家里可能会实现.但在学校这种99%都是独生子女的环境中.怎么可能实现?“于是.开学不适应症开始悄悄蔓延。”陈老师无奈地说.“很多父母疼子心切.眼见孩子不适应新环境.不但不去启发孩子以适当的途径来适应环境、接纳他人.反而想让学校、老师来修改规则或出面调停.还孩子一个‘公道’。这种迁就孩子的做法,其负面影响是显而易见的。”据某重点中学对10届毕业生所做的调查发现,在校期间对环境有良好适应力的孩子,上大学或走上工作岗位后.人际关系融洽、学业事业一帆风顺者居多:反之则很容易遇到发展上的瓶颈。由此看来,能主动适应环境也是一种潜能力。那么,父母应如何培养孩子这种至关重要的“潜能力”呢?
At the beginning of the new school year, you certainly can not imagine how busy the psychological counseling room affiliated with the school! Chen, who was a counselor in high school, said: “This month I talked with my students about the total amount of interviews for the next 3 months Move into graduation classes and new schools, transfer classes, change class or main class teacher from boarding to boarding ... Every change can make an adolescent child ill-suited. ”“ Being an only child, self-centered Strong state of mind, the lack of a positive attitude to take the initiative to adapt to the environment. The total negative hope to wait for the environment to adapt to their own. This illusion may be achieved at home, but 99% of the schools are one-child environment .How possible to achieve? ”So start apathy began quietly spread.“ ”Chen reluctantly said.“ Many parents are eager to see the child does not adapt to the new environment.Not only not to inspire children to adapt to the environment in an appropriate way, to accept others, but want to let the school, the teacher to modify the rules or mediation. The negative impact of migrating children is obvious. ”According to a survey of 10 graduates in a key middle school, children who are well-adapted to the environment while at school attend college or are on the job A good interpersonal and academic career are the most popular: On the other hand, it is easy to meet the bottleneck of development. Seen in this light, can take the initiative to adapt to the environment is also a potential. So, how parents should cultivate children this crucial “potential”?