不久前,我参加了一场私人会议。会议开始前,首席执行官转向一位下属:“那件事你干得漂亮,搞得不错,做得很好!”这是公认的正确表扬方式:要表扬一个人,就应该立即、明确而且公开地说出来。我看着那个刚刚受到表扬的人,觉得他变得高大了一些。看看桌子边的其他人,觉得他们都矮小了一些。我经常见证这种效应。如果有人告诉一位记者,他最新的那篇文章非常精彩,这时你仔细观察在场其他记 Not long ago, I attended a private meeting. Before the start of the meeting, the chief executive turned to a subordinate: “Well you did it well and done well!” This is a recognized correct way of recognition: To praise someone, you should immediately, Speak clearly and openly. I looked at the one who had just been praised and thought he was taller. Look at the rest of the table, think they are short. I often witness this effect. If someone tells a reporter that his latest article is very exciting, then you carefully observe the presence of other