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不要让快乐完全依赖外界如果一个人需要尊重、认可、赞赏或关心,但父母并没有好好满足他的需求,他的自我评价就会慢慢改变。比方说,假如我无法从父亲那里得到认可,余生我都会往外部世界寻求,一旦得到认可,我会非常快乐,得不到就会觉得失落、不快乐。换句话说,我变得非常依赖外界评价。我们就是这样被制约了,总是希望做让父母感到骄傲的事,而没有把注意力放在自己身上。就是因为不把注意力放在自己身
Do not Let Happiness Completely Depend on the Outside If one needs to respect, approve, appreciate or care, but his parents are not meeting his needs well, his self-evaluation will slowly change. For example, if I can not get approval from my father, I will seek the outside world for the rest of my life. Once I am recognized, I will be very happy. If I do not get it, I will feel lost and unhappy. In other words, I became very dependent on external evaluations. This is how we are constrained, and we always want to be proud of our parents rather than focus on ourselves. Just because you do not pay attention to yourself