我和老公结婚3年了,如今他有了外遇。我和他发生了激烈的争吵,现在他打算两边都放手,我该怎么办?像你老公这样的情况并不多见。他所做的打算说明他与两边的感情都不够深厚;又或者,他的个性中有不足甚至缺陷,在与人建立感情方面有困难。他原来以为找个外遇的对象能解决婚姻中不如意的问题,但后来他发现并非如此,就感到累了、烦了,所以干脆都放弃。 My husband and I have been married for three years, and now he has an affair. I was in a fierce quarrel with him, and now he’s going to let go on both sides, what should I do? Things like your husband are rare. His intention is to show that he and his feelings on both sides are not deep enough; or that he has shortcomings or even shortcomings in his personality, creating difficulties with others. He had thought that finding an affair could solve the unhappy marriage problem, but later he found out that he was tired and annoyed, so he simply gave up.