在生活中,你可能总是会抱怨,对方没有能够准确地get你的意思。有时候你以为自己当时说得很清楚,但实际上,过了一段时间你才发现,双方的理解却可能大相径庭,这影响了你们的工作效率、关系满意度。比如,在亲密关系中,往往是在矛盾叠加起来,和伴侣引发争吵的时候,当我们追根溯源时才会说,“我以为你都懂了”。在2015年出版的著作中,社会心理学家Heidi Grant Halvorson研究了人们误解的来源:是什么使我们不能彼此理解? In life, you may always complain that the other person can not get what you mean accurately. Sometimes you think you made it very clear at that time, but in fact you discovered after a period of time that the understanding between the two parties can vary widely, affecting your work efficiency and your relationship satisfaction. For example, in intimacy, often when contradictions add up and sparring with partners, we can only say when we look back. “I think you all understand.” In a 2015 book, social psychologist Heidi Grant Halvorson explores the sources of misconception: what makes us incapable of understanding each other?