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缺少对孩子的鼓励和肯定,是中国父母的通病。这样做最大的风险,是孩子会缺少自信,内心深处有强烈的自卑情结。有两个身边的真实故事,一直萦绕心头:某男,40岁,童年也曾有梦想,成年后也曾很努力;如今他没工作,没婚姻,没朋友,觉得自己的生活毫无价值,时常想结束自己的生命!某女,40岁,有深爱自己的丈夫,有可爱的孩子,有喜欢的工作,但是她感觉以往的生活就像沙漠一样;对不爱说话的孩子她深怀愧疚,对体贴包容的丈夫她满腔愤怒,时不时就要对他咆哮折腾一番!
The lack of encouragement and affirmation of children is a common problem for Chinese parents. The biggest risk of doing so is that children will lack confidence and there will be a strong inferiority complex in their hearts. There are two true stories around me, always haunting: a man, 40 years old, had a dream childhood, have worked hard in adulthood; now he did not work, no marriage, no friends, feel worthless life, Often want to end their own life! A woman, 40 years old, have a deep love for her husband, a lovely child, have a favorite job, but she felt the past life is like a desert; Guilty, full of anger on her thoughtful and accommodating husband, from time to time to roar about him toss about it!