艺术家、音乐家、有创造性的作家们长久以来一直对点燃双方爱情(或曰情欲)、性欲和性行为火花的复杂动机具有浓厚的兴趣。最近,来自文化心理学、女权主义和性别研究、女同性恋研究、社会心理学、社会历史学、社会学、哲学、神经科学、生物学、性学等领域的不同学派的学者们都开始询问与调查“为什么男男女女选择投身于暧昧的关系?”“为什么他们回避这样的邂逅?”这两个充满理论味道的问题。但是相关的资料却十分罕见。许多理论家一直抱怨说:现实 Artists, musicians and creative writers have long had a strong interest in igniting the complex motives of the sparks of love (or eroticism), sexuality and sexual activity on both sides. Recently, scholars from different schools in the fields of cultural psychology, feminism and gender studies, lesbian studies, social psychology, social history, sociology, philosophy, neuroscience, biology, sexology and others have started to ask Survey “Why men and women choose to engage in ambiguous relationship? ” “Why do they avoid such an encounter?” These two are full of theoretical taste of the problem. However, the relevant information is very rare. Many theorists have complained: reality