所有的父母都希望自己的孩子聪明、活泼、开朗、合群、有礼貌,可现实生活中经常能看到一些小孩或是欺负同伴,霸占玩具,不懂分享;或是举止不文明,口吐脏话;或是不能融入集体,胆小、退缩等,似乎远离了父母的期望。为什么会这样呢?孩子的性格是怎样形成的?我们可以从鲍尔比的依恋理论说起。一英国心理学家鲍尔比在19世纪50年代提出依恋理论,他认为婴幼儿有和主要照顾者(通常是父母,尤其是母亲)建立强烈的情感联结 All parents want their children to be smart, lively, cheerful, gregarious, and polite. But in real life, they can often see some children or bully their peers, occupy toys, do not understand sharing, or behave uncivilized. ; Or can not integrate into the collective, timid, withdrawn, etc., seems far from the parents’ expectations. Why does this happen? How does the child’s character form? We can start with Bowie’s attachment theory. Baldwin, a British psychologist who came up with attachment theory in the 1850s, believes that infants and young children have strong emotional bonds with primary caregivers (usually parents, especially mothers)