在我儿子查理11岁以前的照片里,很难找到他微笑的面孔,即使在他开心的时刻,小小年纪的查理也显得忧虑重重。我经常坐在他的床边,让他把担心的事情排列出来,以便我们能逐一化解,就像是图书馆里划掉丢失的书籍一样。比如,查理向我坦承:最让他内疚的是,在奶奶快要去世时,他盼望的只是她会在遗嘱里给他留下一笔钱。我告诉查理, In the photograph of my son Charlie 11 years old, it was hard to find his smiling face, and even when he was happy Charlie, a very young age, seemed worried. I often sit beside his bed, letting him arrange the things that are worried, so that we can dissolve each one one by one, just as if we were missing the missing books in the library. Charlie admitted to me, for example, that what made him guilty of most was that when Grandma was about to die, all he wanted was for her to leave him a fortune in his will. I told Charlie