作为一个多年的心理咨询师,我一直认为咨询是否成功,源自于咨询师对时机的把握,而不在于道理本身。一个好的心理咨询师有能力把握应该在什么时机对怎样的人说怎样的话。恰到好处,事半功倍;否则恐怕难有效果。所以,该退的时候要退,该等的时候要等,以退为进,欲擒故纵,四两拨千斤,才是成功的咨询,才会有成功的效果。 As a multi-year counselor, I always think that the success of counseling stems from consultants to grasp the timing, not the truth itself. A good psychologist has the ability to grasp what kind of person should say when and when. Just right, do more with less; otherwise, I am afraid ineffective. Therefore, we must retreat when the retreat, the time to wait, in order to retreat into the future, wantonly capture the strengths and weaknesses, is the successful consultation, will have a successful effect.