你求别人一件事,对方不肯,最令你难堪的不是事情没有办成,而是自己遭到拒绝,失了面子。别人求你一件事,你不好意思拒绝,主要原因也是怕伤了别人的自尊。历史上,很多成功的领导人都精通拒绝的艺术,在说“不”的同时,还能给足对方的面子。19世纪英国首相狄斯雷利就是一例。有个野心勃勃的军官一再请 You ask for one thing, the other refused, the most embarrassing you is not things not done, but they have been rejected, lost face. Someone else beg you one thing, you are embarrassed to refuse, the main reason is afraid of hurting others self-esteem. Historically, many successful leaders have mastered the art of refusal, saying “not” while still giving face to face. The 19th century British Prime Minister Disraeli is one example. An ambitious officer repeatedly asked