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[美]朱迪丝.维尔斯特在《必要的丧失》的《导言》中说过一段话:“人的发展之路是由放弃铺筑而成的。我们终身都通过放弃成长着。”在婚姻之中,几乎所有的夫妻都不能做到满足彼此的全部需要。每个人的生活经历都会使她(他)产生种种理想的婚姻期望,而一当这些期望得不到实现,就可能引起两个人之间的冲突,这可能是婚姻紧张的根源。 婚姻不是儿戏,肢解一个婚姻不是十分容易的事情,而一当婚姻使人的自尊心受到挫伤,是维持现有婚姻,还是走出城堡,就会成为人的两难选择。 一次电话咨询,我接到了这样一个电话:
[US] Judith Willster said in his “Introduction to the Necessary Loss,” that “human development has been abandoned by paving the way we grew up by giving up.” In marriage Among them, almost all couples can not meet all the needs of each other. Each person’s life experience will make her (he) produce all kinds of ideal marriage expectations, and when these expectations can not be achieved, it may lead to conflict between two people, which may be the root cause of marital tension. Marriage is not a child’s play, dismemberment of a marriage is not an easy task, and a marriage will make people’s self-esteem bruised, maintain the existing marriage, or out of the castle, it will become the dilemma of man. A telephone consultation, I received such a call: